Tips for OkCupid Dating

1. Don’t build them up too much

I mean two things by this: Don’t get hung up on any one girl too early.

I’ve messaged an amazing girl for OkCupid Dating 6 weeks (she was out of town) and had her flake out at the last second.

I went on an awesome OkCupid Dating date with a gorgeous 5’10” model, had her write me saying how much she enjoyed the date, only to have her delete her account a couple OkCupid Dating weeks after our date.

I had an awesome time OkCupid Dating fooling around with one girl only to have her lose interest.

It’s so fun to get excited or be stoked on a particular girl you like, but try not to get ahead of yourself. You’ll come off as needy to them and get yourself really disappointed when things fizzle out. Most things will fizzle out or not work out. Expect it and just enjoy the chase and the action you do get.

Don’t imagine them as being your dream girl or being one way or another until you actually meet them. Don’t put them on a pedestal.

I found myself reading OkCupid Dating through a girl’s profile and imagining and projecting all sorts of things about her. She became more amazing and interesting in my head the more I let my mind run away...

Dude, she’s just a person. She could be fun, she could make good conversation, she might not.

She might bring up things that are really not that attractive. She might be totally boring and sarcastic. You don’t know til you talk face to face.

Go into the in-person OkCupid Dating meet up excited and ready to chat, but be aware that you don’t know her yet. Let her be herself and be aware that she’ll have good things and bad things that you didn’t see coming. The mystery of getting to know her is way more exciting than any girl you could have constructed in your mind.

2. Call Them First

You can tell a lot from her writing OkCupid Dating style and photos, but not everything. Have a short conversation on the phone before the in-person meet up is a good way to:

Determine if she’s worth OkCupid Dating your time and the conversation will go ok.

Develop a little rapport so the first in-person meeting isn’t so awkward.

3. Give Her a Chance.

I’m a very warm extroverted guy; I turn on naturally around people and under pressure. I like this in a girl. A lot of girls won’t turn on naturally, a lot of them can be quite nervous and even cold at first.

If you’re attracted to her and think there could be potential, give her a date or two more before you write her off (or come to like her). I’m aware this might contradict previous points, I obviously am still not sure how much of chance to give them.

4. Show More, Tell Less

You say you’re spontaneous, OkCupid Dating chivalrous, innovative, curious, clever, risky, etc… Realize that almost everyone is saying how they have fun socially desirable traits. Why not show her you are these things with stories and photos? It’ll be far more believable.

5. Assess the Competition and Steal Their Tactics

Reverse the match search, OkCupid Dating and search other straight guys’ profiles. You’ll start to see patterns and you’ll see the site from her perspective.

Obviously, you can’t understand “what women want” but it’ll probably give you ideas for your profile and understand how you fit into the pool of single men. I think you’ll start to understand what works and what doesn’t.

6. Don't Sell Yourself Short

At least 3-4 times, I started OkCupid Dating my messages with disqualifying statements. I’d start with something like “I know, I know, I’m a bit young for you…” Why did I do that? I have no idea. Don’t do it. Go in confident, give her your best shot, let her shoot you down, don’t shoot yourself down.

7. Personality and Rapport Matter Most

This goes back to projecting about the girl. I’ve had meet ups where before I wasn’t sure if this or that was quite right about the girl. I remember literally thinking “she has kind of a really wide face” about a girl who turned out to be really fun and attractive upon meeting up