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Legal processes, by their nature, pit one against the other.

Okay, let me be clear about this one: don’t run to the attorney to begin divorce or separation proceedings.

However, you may be well- advised to speak with an attorney about what you may need to do to protect yourself.

These are two very different reactions. Believe it or not, I have seen many divorces where neither want to be divorced, but one or the other started a legal process that locked them into a battle.

When you look on a legal document, and the word separating the parties is “versus,” there is a reason for this.

Legal processes, by their nature, pit one against the other.

Attorneys are excellent at what they do. They protect their client’s interests.

But in doing so, the process can create a huge amount of animosity. Once the process begins, there is a natural process that pushes the couple apart.

And unfortunately, there is little that can be done to cushion this process.

People often start the process because they feel like they better, before the other gets an upper hand. But often, this jumps the gun.

In fact, it is often more a result of the point in #1 --someone is panicking.

Yet many separations end up in recommitment. Lots of marriages have been through separations.

Many threats to leave, divorce, or separate end with a couple together and happy.

As I have always said to couples: you can always go and file later. It is much harder to unfile.