issues, but the way in which their anger is portrayed is often very similar.
It’s never their fault! Have you noticed that?
It’s your fault for making him late for a
It’s the kids fault for making too much noise during a favourite TV
It’s the fault of every other driver on the road for contributing to the
traffic jam on the way to work
It’s the fault of everybody and everything else
Some people have the kind of disposition that makes it possible for them to see
the lighter side of problems, to deal calmly with whatever life throws at them and
to always remain positive. Does this mean that nobody has made them late? No.
Does it mean that their kids aren’t noisy? No. Have they ever been stuck in a
traffic jam? Yes, of course they have. So it’s not the fault of the situation, it’s the
reaction to the situation which creates anger problems.
A very important aspect of dealing with anger related problems is by realising that
it’s not always everyone else’s fault. If someone bumps into you and spills coffee
down your shirt, step back, think, ‘did they do that on purpose?’ of course not, so
is it ‘their fault?’ not really, it’s an accident and accidents happen. By stepping
back from a situation and trying to see it from the other person’s point of view can
be an extremely positive step forward in managing your anger and leading to a
happier life for all.
By allowing your anger to get the better of you can make even the smallest
situation soon escalate into a massive problem, and the sooner you realise that
nothing good comes from losing control, the better.